I Never Said I Loved You by Rhik Samadder

$14.00 NZD

Category: Biography | Reading Level: very good

'I Never Said I Love You is one of the most electric, enchanting, engrossing and energising memoirs of self-harm, self-loathing, grief, eating disorders, suicide - and sex - that you will read.' The Sunday Times 'Indecently entertaining... one of the most uplifting and eccentric memoirs I have ever rea d.' Observer 'Brutally honest and relentlessly funny.' Adam Kay, author of 'This is Going to Hurt' 'This mind-blowingly wonderful memoir had me convulsing with laughter even while my heart was breaking. It's utterly effing BEAUTIFUL.' Marian Keyes 'I found myself blindsided by this extraordinary book ... I was deeply moved by its capacity both to depict pain, and offer consolation. I loved it, and won't ever forget it.' Sarah Perry 'Both touching and funny' the Telegraph On an unlikely backpacking trip, Rhik and his mother find themselves speaking openly for the first time in years. Afterwards, the depression that has weighed down on Rhik begins to loosen its grip for a moment - so he seizes the opportunity: to own it, to understand it, and to find out where it came from. Through this begins a journey of investigation, healing and recovery. Along the way Rhik learns some shocking truths about his family, and realizes that, in turn, he will need to confront the secrets he has long buried. But through this, he triumphs over his fears and brings his depression into the light. I Never Said I Loved You is the story of how Rhik learned to let go, and then keep going. With unique humour and honesty, he has created a powerfully rich, funny and poignant exploration of the light and dark in all of us. A vital, moving and darkly funny memoir by a powerful new voice in non-fiction. 'Both unputdownable and beautifully-written, bracing and consoling. A book that tackles mental health and the darkest things with razor-sharp wit and mordant laughs aplenty ... read this.' Sharlene Teo 'Touching, funny, wildly readable ... Look out for it.' Sathnam Sanghera 'No one writes better, or more sweetly, about how it feels to feel. Even the darkest times are shot through with glorious, bright beams of wit.' Janet Ellis 'It's honest and funny (and beautifully painful and brutal at times), but also - oh goodness - it's so elegant. The writing is graceful and kind, even when it hurts a little to remember it's a memoir.' Joanna Cannon 'Equal parts hilarious and heartbreaking. What an absolutely riveting read.' Nikita Gill 'Heartbreaking, funny, raw, brave and - yes! - even better than the egg thing.' Erin Kelly 'I have always loved Rhik Samadder's writing. And now there's a whole book!' Jessie Burton 'A sparkling, thoughtful memoir. It manages to be witty, charming, brooding and devastating all the same time.' Justin Myers, The Guyliner ...Show more

Stop Surviving Start Fighting by Jazz Thornton

$16.00 NZD

Category: Psychology | Reading Level: near fine

Jazz Thornton first attempted to take her own life at the age of 12. Multiple attempts followed and she spent time in psychiatric wards and under medical supervision as she rode the rollercoaster of depression and anxiety through her teenage years - yet the attempts continued. Find out what Jazz learned about how her negative thought patterns came to be, and how she turned those thoughts - and her life - around. Who and what helped, and what didn't help. The insights she gives will help create greater understanding of those grappling with mental illness, and those around them who desperately want to help. Jazz went on to attend film school, and to co-found Voices of Hope, a non-profit organisation dedicated to helping those with mental health issues and show them there is a way forward. She creates online content to provide hope and help. Her first video Dear Suicidal Me has had over 80 million views all around the world. She went on to create Jessica's Tree, a web series that follows the 24 hours between a friend, Jess, going missing and the discovery of her body. It provides insights into Jessica's struggles, to help people better understand those suffering from depression. https-//www.youtube.com/watch?v=7QFU_qg7Msk Jessica's Tree was viewed more than 230,000 times in the two months following its release in March 2019 and immediately began winning international recognition and awards. The process and the delicate decisions that had to be made to create Jessica's Tree have themselves been documented in a film about Jazz called The Girl on the Bridge, due for release early in 2020. ...Show more

Marshmallow Test: Understanding Self-control and How to Master it by Walter Mischel

$15.00 NZD

Category: Psychology

A child is presented with a marshmallow and given a choice: Eat this one now, or wait and enjoy two later. What will she do? And what are the implications for her behaviour later in life? Walter Mischel's now iconic "marshmallow test," one of the most famous experiments in the history of psychology, pro ved that the ability to delay gratification is critical to living a successful and fulfilling life: self-control not only predicts higher marks in school, better social and cognitive functioning, and a greater sense of self-worth; it also helps us manage stress, pursue goals more effectively, and cope with painful emotions. But is willpower prewired, or can it be taught? In his groundbreaking new book, Dr. Mischel draws on decades of compelling research and life examples to explore the nature of willpower, identifying the cognitive skills and mental mechanisms that enable it and showing how these can be applied to challenges in everyday life - from weight control to quitting smoking, overcoming heartbreak, making major decisions, and planning for retirement. With profound implications for the choices we make in parenting, education, public policy and self-care, The Marshmallow Test will change the way we think about who we are and what we can be. And since, as Mischel argues, a life with too much self-control can be as unfulfilling as one with too little, this book will also teach you when it's time to ring the bell and enjoy that marshmallow. ...Show more

Free to Be Children: Preventing Child Sexual Abuse in Aotearoa New Zealand by Robyn Salisbury (Editor)

$20.00 NZD

Category: New Zealand | Reading Level: near fine

Sexual abuse of children wrecks lives, families and communities. In this landmark book, well-known registered clinical psychologist Robyn Salisbury seeks the wisdom of those who have devoted many years, each in their own domain, to working with child sexual abuse. Driven by Salisbury's wish to challeng e abused children's invisibility and abusive adolescents' and adults' power, this book makes a major and unique contribution to understanding how we can best tackle the tragedy of child sexual abuse as a nation, and how urgent it is that we do. From its foreword by Children's Commissioner Judge Andrew Becroft to its chapters by survivors, clinical psychologists working with both victims and offenders, the Chief Censor, experts on child trafficking and psychotherapists working in damaged communities, the expertise contained in its pages offers a blueprint for best practice for both professionals and the community, and cannot be ignored. ...Show more

The Technique and Practice of Listening in Intensive Psychotherapy by Richard D. Chessick

$16.00 NZD

Category: Psychology | Series: G - Reference, Information and Interdisciplinary Subjects Ser. | Reading Level: very good

Dr Chessick uses the metaphor of a television set in order to illustrate Freud's notion of the therapist's unconscious as a receptive organ for the transmitting unconscious of the patient. The therapist listens to the patient's transmissions on five different channels, represented by five orientations, stances, modes, or models, among which the therapist must switch back and forth on the patient's initiative. Furthermore, Dr. Chessick shows how to validate interventions in order to be sure that the therapist has indeed heard correctly. The five channels are: Freud's drive/conflict/defence orientation, still primary and preferred; the object relations approach of Klein and Bion and others; the phenomenological or sociocultural approach of Fromm, Sartre, Lacan, Foucault and others; Kohut's self psychology and the works of Fairbairn, Winnicott, Gedo, R.D. Laing and others; and the interactional school, exemplified by the work of Sullivan and Gill. ...Show more

Memory Distortion - How Minds, Brains, and Societies Reconstruct the Past by Daniel L. Schacter; Joseph T. Coyle; Gerald D. Fischbach; Marek-marsel Mesulam; Lawrence E. Sullivan

$25.00 NZD

Category: Psychology | Reading Level: very good

Hypnosis, confabulation, source amnesia, flashbulb memories, repression--these and numerous additional topics are explored in this timely collection of essays by eminent scholars in a range of disciplines. This is the first book on memory distortion to unite contributions from cognitive psychology, psyc hopathology, psychiatry, neurobiology, sociology, history, and religious studies. It brings the most relevant group of perspectives to bear on some key contemporary issues, including the value of eyewitness testimony and the accuracy of recovered memories of sexual abuse.The distinguished contributors to this volume explore the full range of biological phenomena and social ideas relevant to understanding memory distortion, including the reliability of children's recollections, the effects of hypnosis on memory, and confabulation in brain-injured patients. They also look into the activity and role of brain systems, cellular bases of memory distortion, and the effects of emotion and trauma on the accuracy of memory. In a section devoted to the social aspects of memory distortion, additional essays analyze the media's part in distorting social memory, factors influencing historical reconstruction of the collective past, and memory distortion in religion and other cultural constructs. Daniel Schacter launches the collection with a history of psychological memory distortions. Subsequent highlights include new empirical findings on memory retrieval by a pioneer in the field, some of the foremost research on computational models, studies of the relationship between emotion and memory, new findings on amnesia by a premier neuroscientist, and reflections on the power of collective amnesia in U.S. history, the Nazi Holocaust, and ancient Egypt. ...Show more

Love, Guilt, and Reparation and Other Works, 1921-1945 by Melanie Klein

$10.00 NZD

Category: Psychology | Reading Level: good

The Psycho-Analytical Treatment of Children, Technical Lectures and Essays by Anna Freud

$10.00 NZD

Category: Psychology | Reading Level: good

Final Lectures by Karen Horney

$12.00 NZD

Category: Psychology | Reading Level: very good

Borderline Conditions and Pathological Narcissism by Otto F. Kernberg

$16.00 NZD

Category: Psychology | Series: G - Reference, Information and Interdisciplinary Subjects Ser.

The basic text for the understanding of patients with pathological narcissism.

Introduction to the Work of Melanie Klein by Hanna Segal

$14.00 NZD

Category: Psychology | Series: Maresfield Library | Reading Level: very good

A most lucid and comprehensive introduction to Kleinian theories from one of the leading contemporary Kleinian analysts, including new chapters on her early work and on technique. This is a reprint of a revised and enlarged edition, where the author has added important new chapters on Melanie Klein's ea rly work and on technique, as well as a complete chronological list of her publications. ...Show more

Personal Being by Rom Harre

$14.00 NZD

Category: Psychology | Reading Level: very good